Phobias and fears can stop us achieving what we want in life or in our career. Below is an example of a phobia, but you could relate this success to a phobia or fear that you would like to get rid of in order to achieve the success you want.
It is usually understood that fear is rational, but is known as a phobia when the fear becomes irrational. These irrational fears are driven by emotions; meaning willpower, facts and reassurance have little impact. Phobias can make the sufferer’s life miserable, cause embarrassment and undermine self-esteem. Phobias can easily develop in childhood or in adulthood, and can often start from something very simple. However, no-one needs to live with a phobia, as there is a way to deal with it in a positive and lasting way.
Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) provides that positive process, and does not involve a lengthy analysis of where it started, or having to be exposed to the topic of the phobia. It’s easy to do and works in line with the way we store our memories.
PHOBIA: Open Water
DATE: March 2011
Bex has had an irrational fear of open water for over 30 years. The fear of the sea, rivers and lakes started from an early age when she watched Jaws the movie.
This phobia had caused Bex to miss out on a number of experiences that she now regrets, including holidays, swimming and boat trips with the children. An expensive and exotic holiday was coming up and Bex finally decided that she was not going to let this phobia spoil her trip. She wanted to go snorkelling, on boat trips and even a banana ride – if only she could overcome the phobia.
Overcoming Phobias with NLP
Bex contacted Karen in order to overcome this phobia once and for all, and the session was booked. Before the session, Karen asked Bex to think of a situation which would prove to her that her phobia was cured, once the process had been completed. Bex decided that a boat trip would really prove it to her, especially as the last time she went on a slow sight-seeing boat she sat in the middle of the boat in tears for the entire trip.
Within 45 minutes, Bex had transformed from being petrified of the thought of open water, to someone who could not wait to go on her first boat in 30 years. Bex described the process as “unbelievable” and was “surprised, and really pleased that the emotions have disappeared entirely”.
Prove the Phobia Has Gone
It was now over to the boat trip that Bex had chosen as her final proof that the phobia had been overcome. When she arrived at the venue, the sight-seeing boat was out of action but thanks to the great team there, they offered a speed boat trip instead! This would really be a test, given her previous experience in a boat. However, Bex had no nerves, no reservations and was so excited about the opportunity. Bex thoroughly enjoyed the experience, which lasted for over an hour!
What Bex had to say
“The whole process was just unbelievable, so easy and completely stress-free. It only took 45 minutes and by the end of that I was surprised, and really pleased, that the emotions had disappeared entirely. I just couldn’t wait to get on that boat – my phobia was gone and I was so excited about my upcoming holiday. Thanks to Karen I am going to enjoy my trip completely, and may even try a banana boat if I can persuade the others to join me! I would highly recommend anyone who has a phobia stopping them enjoying life, to speak to Karen and get rid of it. I wasted too many years with this fear, only to have it gone in less than an hour, once I’d decided enough was enough. I wish I had sorted it out a long time ago, but now that I have, I’m going to make the most of it at every opportunity.”
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