Leadership Skills

Keeping Calm When All Around Are Not: Quiet Curiosity

How can you keep calm when all around you seem to be getting angry and frustrated?  There are some people who manage to do it easily, and keep control during difficult conversations.  They come across as quietly assertive, and are highly respected for their communication skills.  But unfortunately, most of ...

Postponing Procrastination

Procrastination: on goals, actions, to-do lists, ideas.  The report that needs to be done, presentation to prepare, even fitness targets we want to achieve.  They can start piling up and lead us to feel overwhelmed, which may make us procrastinate even more. Have you been known to decide to start a ...

Breathing Out Stress

As we breathe approximately 20,000 times a day, inhaling and exhaling about 15 to 20 times a minute, you’d think we’d have it all under control.  But no!! Think about the last time you were in a stressful situation, made a big mistake, or were asked a question in a ...

Who’s Paying the Price for Your Emotions?

Have you ever considered who’s paying the price for your emotional state?  If you’re in a bad mood in one meeting, do you find that you’ve taken that mood into the next meeting?  And then, those people in the second meeting are paying the price for what’s happened previously, and ...

A Change To The Small Words

When trying to achieve success for goals and targets, changing a couple of tiny words can help you move your focus from negative to positive. Not only is this very useful for your personal goals, but it's will make a difference when communicating and motivating others.

Project ME! 2017

What is it that you want to change for yourself this year?  What are your targets and goals for your development that you want to put in place? Change isn’t easy, and it’s rarely fast.  The initial decision to change can be fast – can be overnight.  Something happens, someone says ...

Communication That Isn’t Perfect

Are you ever worried that your communication isn’t perfect?  Before your conversation (i.e. in your head), you know what you want to say and how you want to say it.  You may have also considered what the other person’s thoughts or objections may be.  You may even have learnt some ...

Walk, Talk and Think?

How often do you think you should be “seen” by your team?   When should you be available to your team if they want to talk to you?  Those keeping to the confines of their office may appear unapproachable or intimidating.  And although sometimes that can feel like the better option, ...

My Coat Went To The Theatre Without Me

Not a sentence I would expect to say very often: my coat went to the theatre without me.  But that’s exactly what happened the other day Having had a very nice meal at a lovely restaurant, my friend and I went with our hanger tickets to collect our coats from the ...

A Team That Takes Responsibility

If you get to the end of the day and realise that you’ve helped your team do their roles, but not had a chance to do yours, it may be that you need to develop a team that takes more responsibility. It’s important for leaders to be there to help ...

Can A Team Work Too Well Together?

Having a team that works well together is something that leaders obviously strive for.  We want respect, encouragement, engagement and team creativity.  Many leaders will try to avoid any form of conflict from happening, worrying that this can only cause them issues.  However, what we need to be aware of ...

The Time To Innovate Is Now

All industries look to innovate in order to ensure they can respond quickly enough to customer demands.  Problems often arise if there’s a lack of speed in innovation.  And some leaders are concerned that few individuals within the organisation will take the initiative or are incapable of looking for creative ...

Support For The Top Performers

As busy leaders in today’s environments, how should time by divided most appropriately to provide the support that will make a real difference to the team? Usually, when asked whether you should spend more time on your top performers (10%), middle performers (80%) or poor performers (10%), managers will often opt ...

I Can’t Possibly Be Wrong!

There's not much we like about being wrong.   And unfortunately, it’s human nature that once we’ve taken a position, we would rather stick to our guns than admit we could be wrong (even to ourselves). Think about a heated meeting you've been in recently.  Did you try to defend your ...

Negative Beliefs Hindering Leadership

Beliefs are those things that you’ve decide are true for you, whether positive or negative.  Confidence in our abilities often comes down to what we believe about ourselves, even though we’re often not consciously aware of what these are. Normally, when we believe we can do something (let’s take as ...

I Can Hire People Who Are Easier To Manage

"It’s OK, I Can Hire People Who Are Easier to Manage!" When taking on an existing team as a leader, there are all sorts of complications: learning about the characteristics of the team members; understanding the role and future requirements; making an impact for senior executives.   Leadership can seem like a ...

I’m Not The Creative Type

I’ve lost count of the number of people who have told me that they’re not creative.  Unfortunately, until a few years ago, that included me! My belief was set in stone for me when I joined a management consultancy (as one of my first full time jobs, many years ago).  The ...

Is Coaching For Me?

Have you wondered whether executive coaching is for you?  Unsure what the procedure would be, and therefore feel uncertain about getting involved?  Well, hopefully the below will help. Coaching from Assiem Ltd is tailormade, uses your real-life situations to implement what you learn and provides a supportive and confidential environment in ...

A Group’s Lack Of Creativity

When you’re asked to brainstorm some new ideas, who do you invite to the meeting?  Are you inviting like-minded individuals, those you may have worked with before or you seem to get along with? This may seem like a good idea, but you could be missing out on some vital thought ...

Dreading the Feedback Conversation?

The phrase “can I give you some feedback?” can instil dread in many a heart!  The next thought can often be “oh no, they’re going to make me look bad here”. A report for DDI by Harris Interactive found that employees would rather suffer a bad hangover, do housework or see ...

Pressure Limits for Leaders

Do you sometimes feel that you’re drowning in expectation (from your manager, team, peers, family, friends, or even yourself) – trying to do all that is required of you in terms of managing the day to day, taking on new projects and initiatives, and being creative enough to take your ...

Was My Way The Best Way?

I was in my dance lesson the other day and we were going over the tiniest aspects of a particular step. We analysed all aspects of this one move, in the greatest of detail – for 50 minutes!  I realised that for years I’ve been doing the same move in ...

My Mind-Reading Skills Keep Failing!

As a manager, I would often take on new teams and one of the first things I would discuss with them is the need for them to talk to me.  Of course I needed to know what was being achieved, expectations against targets, when mistakes have happened etc.  But importantly, ...

Have You Got The Face For Leadership?

Whenever someone came up to my desk to ask me something, I automatically put a smile on my face to greet them.  I had learnt over the years that apparently I look miserable if I’m not smiling!  And it came as a shock to people when I wasn’t smiling!  More ...

360 Degree Leadership

Most people have heard of 360 feedback: getting feedback from your manager, peers and direct reports in order to get a good overview of your strengths and development areas.  However, have you thought of how your leadership should be skilled outwardly in all directions, communicating effectively with all those around ...

Leaders Are Responsible for Their Development Too

Over the years, Leadership Development programmes have cost organisations dearly.  Companies can be providing  their leaders with the tools, but more often than not, nothing much changes in the day-to-day results.  As with the old proverb “you can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make it drink”, you ...

I Know What You’re Thinking!

Whenever I’m discussing communication skills with managers, I often find myself challenging them on their assumptions about what other people (peers, manager, team members) might be thinking in specific situations. “How do you know?”  How do you know what they are thinking, if you haven’t asked them?  If you’ve not asked ...

Are you Suffering from Decision Fatigue?

Think about when you’ve had a very busy day at work, you’ve made lots of decisions on strategy, resources, management issues, budgets etc.  When you get home you are faced with even more decisions to make regarding the family, what to eat, where you might go on holiday, activities with the ...

Inspiring Leadership: An Expedition, Not An End Goal

Do you think of leadership as a goal that you may achieve and be good at one day?  Ticking off a set of criteria (possibly by attending specific training courses) that get you to the end goal of “Being a Good Leader”?  Are you putting additional pressure on yourself to ...

Is It Safe Enough to Take Risks?

Have you been told that you don’t take enough risks when coming up with new ideas?  Or you need to look beyond the day to day and find new and innovative ways to take the team/business forward?  Or you need to do more on building and leading new strategies? Additionally, as ...